This piece originally appeared on askmen.com
“The difference between ‘girlfriend’ and ‘girl friend’ is that little space in between, we call the friendzone.”
The dreaded “friendzone”
Blame it on your stars, or your uncanny knack of landing in this unholy territory called the friend zone that most men (and women) have been at some point of their lives. For men, hearing these words, “You’re just like my brother” to “I see you as a friend” is akin to getting a swift kick to the nether regions.
1. Every Cloud has a Silver Lining
That being said, here are a five reasons why being in such a space is not that bad and hopeless altogether.While it probably feels like the end of the world, being in the friendzone has some certain advantages even if you don’t see it right away. Yes, it’s true, so don’t roll your eyes, or scoff at the thought. Open your mind to this possibility, and you just might be pleasantly surprised at the rewards you reap.
2. Deep Friendship
The foundation of any good relationship is a rock-solid friendship. When you’ve been friendzoned, don’t take it as a sign of rejection and cut all ties immediately. Instead, take your time and develop the friendship further. Get to know them truly as a friend.
3. Insider Info
You know what they say when life gives you lemons, you make lemonade, or alternatively you could add some salt and tequila – whatever rocks your boat. Gentlemen, whether you realise it or not, you are in an enviable position of understanding of what makes a girl tick (here’s where you put those listening skills to test) because of the inside information that you are privy to when you’ve been friendzoned.
This information can be in the form of dating advice to making a good first date impression and everything else in between. These invaluable nuggets can help you avoid potential landmines when it comes to future relationships, and sweeping other women off their feet.
4. You’ll be a hit with her parents
When you’ve been friendzoned, you’re perceived as less of threat with her folks and siblings. You can bask in the glow of their approval of you, and they will be comforted by the fact that she is in safe hands. It may not work in turning the tide around, but it can’t hurt, right?
5. Second chances
While this rarely happens, sometimes a combination of excellent timing and luck coupled with a deep and respectful friendship could be the secret sauce that gives you a second chance to navigate from being just friends to being in a relationship the second time around.
So, should you find yourself in the friendzone, don’t give up. Instead, embrace it with grace.
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